CBC NEWS Point of View: Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage — but what about love and COVID?
Relationships are never easy, and many of them change and falter dramatically when children enter the picture. But what about when a global pandemic rears its infectious head?
For some parents, the seismic shift in their daily lives has brought up challenges they've never faced before, and forced them to address issues that were barely on their radar.
For journalist and mother, Danielle Campoamor, COVID has forced her and her partner to travel a particularly rocky road. They've faced a lot of difficulties together — from the loss of twins at 19 weeks pregnant to the stress of raising two more young children together. But with him working 12-hour shifts out of the house and Danielle working from home while taking care of their two kids, she's had to question more than just her relationship.
"This has made us not only look at each other in another way, and how we communicate, but also look at ourselves," says Campoamor. "Who we are and how we handle ourselves just as individuals."
Are divorce and separation rates on the rise?
In March, when China lifted its strict quarantine measures, there was a big jump in the divorce rates. Sadly, it seems we are experiencing the same phenomenon on a local level. Vancouver lawyer Marcus Sixta explains what he and his colleagues are seeing across the country.
"We're seeing an increase in inquiries regarding divorces and separation ... the areas of domestic violence as well. It seems that what happened in China ... we're actually seeing the same thing happening here," says Sixta. "There is this 'COVID bump' in the divorce rate that we're seeing now."
The longer you wait, the harder it is to fix your relationship
A lot of counsellors and therapists are also seeing a big increase in people wanting help. With so many of us stuck together, and unable to get space and gain outside perspective from friends, or just from a change of scenery, it's easy to see why so many families are going off the rails. But as clinical counsellor and sex therapist Diana Sadat explains, while business is booming right now, it's sadly because a lot of people waited too long to ask for help.
Every relationship has problems and needs constant care and attention to survive — it's like the most needy and delicate plant you'll ever take care of. But within the confines of quarantine and under the crushing weight of COVID, it's easy for cracks to grow and resentment to fester. And that can lead relationships to falter and, for some, to unravel. Right now, we don't know how long COVID will be around — and for many, that same uncertainty now surrounds their futures together.
Read the full article at CBC NEWS Point of View: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/parenting-covid-divorce-1.5738527
